I have a family member getting married next year and it’s an exciting time for everyone. Cool. Earlier, this person and I had a talk where she told me that ‘I wasn’t happy enough for her and that I’m very calm about everything.’ This comes as a blow. While I’m excited for her and her future husband, I find it hard to over exaggerate bubbly. I would much prefer to let you know that I’m happy for you and remain who I am while helping you plan your engagement parties in addition to your wedding.
People fail to realize how they set the tone for how people will perceive their situation. Let me paint the picture for you. It was May when my immediate family met up to hang out. I had been over there for like 45 minutes to an hour before I look over and say “hey are you guys engaged?” only to be met with a response of “yeah, I thought I told you”…….REALLY?!?! If someone fails to get excited and downplay their own engagement, how do you get bubbly over their news? Let’s not get too far ahead of ourselves, because we set the tone for everything. If you are excited about something you would scream your engagement from the mountain top not play it off like it means nothing.
I’m game for however someone wants to play it, but, I draw the line when someone tells me I’m not as excited as most people are at this time. Huh! Would most people rearrange their vacation just to attend one of the engagement parties you plan to hosting? While other people are bubbly and crying about the webpage I created for your wedding, none of them are buying plane tickets and booking hotel nights to attend both of your parties like I have. I’m the type of person who can appreciate someone’s actions more than what you say. Your friends can be as bubbly as possible and still not show up when the day counts. This sort of feels like a slap in the face given everything I have to pay for to attend the engagement parties and travel to their destination wedding.
People don’t realize how asinine their comments really are at times. I’d rather show you with my actions how supportive I am instead of fluffing up my voice to sound like someone who just isn’t me.